What not to ask someone who is having a bad day.

1. Would you do that again?
2. Is it really that bad?
3. What if you look at it from this perspective.
Today has been one of those days when the best thing to do is to not do anything. The idea of not “solving” an issue is not one I am comfortable with but I am learning that often the best solution is to not do a thing. Family life has been particularly challenging this year and as such I have found myself on the wrong side of just about everyone in the family. Problem is I am suppose to be the head of the family. If I am the problem what does that make everyone else in the family? Why the solution or the victims of course. So as I said this is a bad day and I am not sure how much is my own doing. If I answer question number 1 above then nope I would not do it over again. The answer to question 2 is I guess it is not really that is bad as I seem to be the only one with a concern for the problems And for question 3 that is my problem I can’t look at it from another perspective. I am too black and white. I am also concerned that if my perspective can be swayed; then what are my standards, my beliefs, my ideals of right and wrong? If I can’t stick to my beliefs because the entire family is against them then I have in fact lost the pulse of the house. Bottom line is don’t ask the above questions on a bad day, then answers will not be warmly received.