So I had a person I know ask me for some assistance. The assistance was in the form of cash and I did as I always do when folks ask for help in the form of cash. I asked how much was needed. I asked nosey questions. I asked if alternatives were available. When this was all done I agreed to help out in a certain amount. A short time later I was contacted again and I was told that the agreed assistance just would not do. So I repeated the process. After checking our finances I dug down deep into our reserves and provided 40% more than initially requested. I gave it as a gift as I do not loan money.
Now comes the rub. The gift was to provide a short term solution to a problem and allow the person to get back on solid ground. The person used the gift to dig a hole of debt. The agreed upon approach was not the one taken. The person failed to tell me that my ?gift? was to be a down payment on something they could not afford to pay cash for.
Questions:
Was I lied to? I certainly was not given the whole picture.
Was not telling me the true motive a deceitful method to get cash.
As it was a gift do I have a right to be upset?
Answers:
It feels like a lie as I was not given the whole picture.
Not telling the true intentions was deceitful.
I do not have the right to be upset. It was a gift. I am trying and will eventually get over this
I will also add that person to my list of folk whom I can no longer trust. That person will not be given an open gift again. I may meet a specific need but it will be on my terms as the individual lost something more valuable than the cash amount. They lost their credibility, once lost hard regained.
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