Entitlement the attitude of ingratitude

From Merriam-Websters
Main Entry: entitlement Function: noun Date: 1942
1 a : the state or condition of being entitled : RIGHT
b : a right to benefits specified especially by law or contract
2 : a government program providing benefits to members of a specified group; also : funds supporting or distributed by such a program

3 : belief that one is deserving of or entitled to certain privileges

So this weekend I had a "session" with members of my family over something that I provide. The something is not critical as much as the attitude of the discussion. I pay for this service to be provided and ask nothing of those who enjoy the service. The reason for the definition above is because the other members involved in this "session" approached it from an attitude of an entitlement. The word entitlement did not even exist until 1942 and it grew from the "New Deal" programs. The closest term for entitlement before 1942 was "right" or "privilege"

Websters 1828

Right
5. Just claim; legal title; ownership; the legal power of exclusive possession and enjoyment. In hereditary monarchies, a right to the throne vests in the heir on the decease of the king. A deed vests the right of possession in the purchaser of land. Right and possession are very different things. We often have occasion to demand and sue for rights not in possession.
6. Just claim by courtesy, customs, or the principles of civility and decorum. Every man has a right to civil treatment. The magistrate has a right to respect.

Privilege
1. A particular and peculiar benefit or advantage enjoyed by a person, company or society, beyond the common advantages of other citizens. A privilege may be a particular right granted by law or held by custom, or it may be an exemption from some burden to which others are subject. The nobles of Great Britain have the privilege of being triable by their peers only. Members of parliament and of our legislatures have the privilege of exemption from arrests in certain cases. The powers of a banking company are privileges granted by the legislature.
a. He pleads the legal privilege of a Roman.
b. The privilege of birthright was a double portion.

So our "session" was not received well because the members of the family felt the entitlement or the right to the item in question. As the provider of the item in question I feel that the item in question is a privilege and not a right or entitlement. The attitude of ingratitude was made clear and I spent the remainder of the day feeling like I have "wronged" the members of the family.

My parents make and burn a significant chunk of change on a monthly basis. Their ability to manage well their funds is a bit lacking. I may not approve of there method of financial management but the reality is I have no "right" or "privilege" nor do I have an "entitlement" to their finances. As long as they are of sound mind and body it is theirs not mine. Should they choose to share, bless, give then I am ?entitled? to or have the "right" to but until then it is not mine.

I am often accused of being black and white. The only way to share something is if the "owner" chooses to share if the owner chooses not to share then it become an issue of stealing I have no right, entitlement, claim to that which is not mine. I should be thankful for receiving anything for which I did not have to give up something for.

Matthew 20:1-16 voices my perspective well. If I agree to work for a set wage then that agreement is between me and the employer. What the employer agrees to for the next guy is none of my business. I have no right or entitlement in this regard.